What is Home?
- Nov 5, 2025
- 4 min read
Updated: Nov 7, 2025
The word "home" is as much a feeling as a building you live in.
I've known the importance of both since I was a little girl. My childhood home burned to the ground just before I turned eight. During the aftermath of the fire, my sisters and I watched my parents struggle to build a new house for us, and together in the years that followed, the seven of us made it home.
Over the two plus years it took my parents to rebuild, we all chipped in to do what we could. My dad was the contractor and project manager for the project while my mom juggled five kids including a newborn and a full time job outside the home. Life was honestly kind of chaotic for a long while. I remember my sisters and I hauling bricks for the construction crew and doing whatever my parents thought we were capable of, even at our young ages.
My dad would bring home old furniture he'd found and we would rehab things to use as best we could. My sisters and I became experts in painting rooms and furniture, plus yard work (no wonder I now love to cut grass and weed)...the list goes on and on. I'm sure the whole experience led me to loving interior design, home building, and gardening. It definitely taught me to look for the positive side of even the most tragic of life's experiences and to make lemonade when life hands you lemons.
Since the global pandemic, when the whole world was forced to turn inward behind closed doors, I have a feeling that each of us have all reflected on the importance of home at one point or another. During that time our homes all shifted to become satellites of office, school, gyms, and a safe haven from the invisible but indisputable storm that was coronavirus. Thankfully the world opened back up and allowed us to venture back into the world around us and our daily lives but we all still head home at the end of a long day.
This may sound crazy coming from someone whose livelihood depends on being employed by clients who want and need help with interior design, but it's on my heart to share what I personally feel is the real secret of home.
Home is an expression of your soul on the outside. Your home is like you - unique in every way. There's not a duplicate of it somewhere, even in cookie cutter developments one might find in the 'burbs, where the same few house plans are used and reused. #samesamebutdifferent The secret of home my friend is you! Never feel ashamed of the things you love, and be unapologetic about what you want to display and see on a daily basis within the sanctuary of your own home. What you love is part of what makes you uniquely you! Your home should be a reflection of that.
I've been around other designers when they've told their clients that they can't use a cherished piece in their own home. I seriously cringe at those memories. I won't lie, there are certainly times where I've been introduced to a certain collectible and wondered "how in the world am I going to make that work?" But in the end I always do! I always give an honest opinion to clients when they ask about using about a piece and yes, I might give a gentle nudging about moving it elsewhere in their home where it might make better sense. Bottom line: there are always creative way to display things or better ways to place items. All this to say that I will never ever tell a client that something they love should not or cannot be used in their home. I will always find a way. Always.
Many moons ago, a designer I knew back in the day stopped by my home. She made a remark about how there were too many pictures displayed for her taste. I was stunned by her rudeness and managed to refrain from telling her how we lost everything in that fire except the clothes on our backs...every antique, every stick of furniture, every. single, thing. including every picture we had of our family up until the day of the fire. I let her comment go without response but I've never forgotten it. Instead I've used it to inform how I treat my clients, how I listen to their stories about pieces they want to incorporate into their home's design, with duty and respect.
Looking back on those tough times, we were able to replace most things. A beautiful tribe of family, friends, plus complete and total strangers rallied around us to provide even the most basic of needs. I remember to this day how my aunt's church threw a birthday party for me since my birthday fell mere days after the fire. I still have the digital Star Wars wrist watch that someone donated as a birthday gift. I'm not sure why but I've kept it all these years. It no longer tells time but it holds a memory...a positive one made from a negative and it reminds me of a stranger's kindness.
While I know only too well that most things can be replaced like a house and furniture and clothing, things like antiques passed down through the years, certain collectibles, and most importantly, old family photos (remember this was WAYYY before iPhones and electronic backups on backups.)...those things entwined with memories from days gone by often are unique and irreplaceable.
On the flip side of the coin, surround yourself with things you love for sure but also know they're just...things.
Remember that you and the people in your life, the ones you share your life with on a daily basis, are truly make a home what it is, and the "things" you enjoy inside your home are icing on the cake. Focusing on creating a home that is an expression of your soul on the outside can guide you to the perfect space and place where you retreat and recharge, one that is uniquely and unapologetically "you" and feels unmistakably like home.
